I began writing my first book, Transformist of the Heart and Soul in 2012 and self-published it in September 2013. At the time, it was a writing project I was passionate about and was willing to share a story about my life, the ups and downs, and the ability to develop my emotional, mental, and spiritual strength to weather the storms of life. I was also, inspired to write Transformist of the Heart and Soul when I noticed that many of my friends, colleagues, and even strangers I spoke to were hurting emotionally and mentally, regardless of their socio-economic, professional, or educational background. They were struggling with self-love, self-care, self-identity, self-permission, self-forgiveness, and being in unhealthy relationships. I wanted to find a way to help those people change their mindset and find positive meaning from their struggles. I was determined to help equip them with intangible tools that would recharge their battery throughout their life journey.
Usually, I describe myself as an extroverted being, but in 2013 when I first published Transformist of the Heart and Soul, I was scared to call myself an author; scared to really share my story. After the book was self-published, I shared the news with a few friends and family, I had the fear of criticism and was trying to protect myself from the feedback that would cause me to second-guess my writing ability. I was not confident that my writing style and concept were impressive enough. Furthermore, I had written a poetry book that could be considered a cross between poems, self-help, and journaling. It was different. At the time, I did not believe that being different would be appealing. However, I knew it was important for me to be transparent with my creativity and authenticity in sharing my story.
A few years later, I migrated to New York and knew then that was my opportunity to share book deserved a second. Yes, I was the unknown author with no connections, and with sales figures too embarrassing to share, but fast-forward to 2018; I had the opportunity to work with my current traditional publishing company in New York. The moment the book deal was signed, I recognized it was truly my moment to share my story confidently, unapologetically, and be celebratory. I was ready to step out there and allow myself to be brave, speak my own truth, and own it. I wanted to allow myself to feel joyous and celebrate my achievements. It was time for me to stop being scared and vulnerable in sharing my story. I understood that noise and chatter were inevitable, but to help others meant sharing my story, talent, and creativity.
I am a firm believer that failure, pain, and setbacks, are important lessons needed. Here are four lessons I learned and earned from getting outside my comfort zone.
I learned that it’s okay to celebrate my wins, whether they were small or big. I should always celebrate my accomplishments.
I learned that people, including my family and friends, will not always be my cheerleaders, so I must continue to press on and love them anyway.
Failure and mistakes are a hell of a great thing because I get the chance to revamp, rethink, redo, and allow my creative juices to flow further.
Have courage. I cannot control the outcome of a situation, but I can do my part by showing up and let the rest fall into place naturally. Change agents do not delay their dreams and passions; they go head-on and pursue the goals no matter what, no matter what!